What Causes Sexual Problems in Women?
Some common causes of sexual problems in women include the following:
- Aging—A woman’s libido (another term for interest in and desire for sex) and sexual activity sometimes decrease with age. This decrease is normal and usually is not a cause for concern, but problems can arise if one partner in a relationship desires sex more often than the other.
- Hormonal changes—Changes in hormones at certain times of a woman’s life may cause changes in her interest in or response to sex. For example, decreased estrogen levels (such as during perimenopause and menopause) may cause vaginal dryness and lead to pain during intercourse.
- Stress and anxiety
- Relationship problems
- Illness, including depression
- Past negative sexual experiences
What are the Types of Sexual Problems that Affect Women?
“Female sexual dysfunction” is a general term for a problem with interest in or response to sex. Sexual problems fall into four groups, which often overlap:
- Desire problems
- Arousal problems
- Orgasmic problems
- Sexual pain disorder
What are Desire Problems?
Lack of desire is the most common sexual concern reported by women. A lack of desire before having sex is normal for some women. They may not feel that they want to have sex until they begin to engage in sexual activity and become aroused. A lack of desire is considered a disorder when a woman:
- does not want to engage in any type of sexual activity, including masturbation
- does not have (or has very few) sexual thoughts or fantasies
- is worried or concerned about these issues
What are Arousal Problems?
Arousal is the name given to the physical and emotional changes that occur in the body as a result of sexual stimulation. Arousal can be affected by many things, including medications, alcohol, smoking, illegal drug use, and medical conditions. Anxiety, stress, problems with your partner, and past negative sexual experiences also can cause arousal difficulties.
What are Orgasmic Problems?
Not having an orgasm during sexual activity may not be a problem. Sharing love and closeness without having an orgasm is satisfying for many women. Other women may feel that not having an orgasm is a problem. They may want to find a solution.
Women with orgasmic disorders may never have had an orgasm from sexual encounters, or they may have had orgasms at one time but no longer have them, despite healthy arousal. The intensity of orgasm may have decreased, which can occur with age.
Orgasmic disorder may be caused by a poor body image or a fear of losing control. It also may occur when a woman does not trust her partner. It is common for women who do not have orgasms to have arousal problems.
What is Sexual Pain Disorder?
Painful sex may be a lifelong or short-term condition. Pain that occurs during sexual activities other than intercourse is called “noncoital sexual pain disorder.” Pain during intercourse is called dyspareunia. Most sexually active women have had pain during sex at some point in their lives. If it occurs often or is severe, a woman should see her health care professional.
Can Certain Substances Affect Sexual Response?
Smoking, alcohol, and drugs can affect sexual response for both women and men. Smoking can slow down blood flow in the sexual organs and cause arousal problems. Alcohol and drugs affect how your body responds. A good first step in addressing sexual problems is to stop or limit smoking and the use of drugs or alcohol.
What Can I Do to Enhance Desire?
- Address and work toward resolving relationship concerns, stresses, and misunderstandings about sex as well as other issues that may be affecting you and your partner.
- Focus less on intercourse and more on intimacy.
- Improve your sex knowledge and skills.
- Make time for sexual activity and focus on enjoyment and pleasuring each other.
What Can I Do to Increase Arousal?
- Be well rested.
- Increase the time spent on foreplay.
- Try a vaginal lubricant for dryness.
- Do Kegel exercises (contract and relax pelvic muscles).
- Do not smoke.
What Can Help Me Have an Orgasm?
- Increase sexual stimulation.
- Try sexual toys.
- Use mental imagery and fantasy.
How Can I Minimize Sexual Pain?
- Try different positions or sexual activities that do not involve intercourse.
- Allow plenty of time for arousal before penetration.
- Use a lubricant.
- Empty your bladder before sex.
- Take a warm bath.
How Can I Address Sexual Problems with My Healthcare Professional?
You could start off with a statement like:
- “I am having some concerns about my sex life.”
- “I do not enjoy sex like I used to.”
- “I am feeling sad lately; my partner is complaining I never want sex.”
- “Lately, I have been having trouble with intimacy. What can I do?”
- “I am just not interested in sex. Do you have any advice?”
- “Getting older has affected my love life. Is there a fix?”
What Should I Expect When I Visit a Healthcare Professional for a Sexual Problem?
You may have a physical examination and a pelvic exam. If you have pain during intercourse, your health care professional may try to re-create this pain by touch. Depending on your symptoms, you may have a blood test to measure hormone levels. You may be referred to another health care professional for other tests or specialized treatment.
What Should I Expect During a Treatment of a Sexual Problem?
Each type of female sexual dysfunction is treated differently. Sexual problems may overlap, and treatment can be complex. Treatment may include changing existing medications or taking new medication, such as estrogen to treat vaginal dryness. If a medical problem is suspected, you may need to have treatment directed at that specific problem.
You may be referred to a sex therapist, even if you also are receiving medical treatment. Sex therapists help people work on the different aspects of sexual disorders, including the emotional, physical, and interpersonal aspects. Couples therapy may be suggested to help with interpersonal issues. Individual counseling may help build sexual confidence by helping you understand how past experiences may be affecting your current sexuality.